An excerpt from Mikhalia Friel of Insider
When it comes time to actually sit down for afternoon tea — which traditionally consists of tea, sandwiches, and cake — Harrold, former butler to Prince Charles and the Duchess of Cornwall, says there are a few things you should avoid doing.
I was surprised to learn that the rule about drinking tea with your pinky sticking out is just a myth. "Don't stick out your pinky finger — you're not testing the wind direction!" Harrold said. "I've seen people do it, they think it's right. It's definitely not right.”
He added that you should never stir your tea in a circle, but instead stir it "gently back and forwards."
Harrold then asked for my opinion on the age-old question that every British person has pondered at least once: Does the milk come before or after the tea?
Hesitantly, I said the milk should come after. "You're an aristocrat, then," was his reply. He explained that traditionally, pouring the boiling water first showed you had status because it meant you were using fine bone china that wouldn't crack.
The full article can be found at https://www.insider.com/quarantine-etiquette-class-with-former-royal-butler-2020-4